Monday, June 09, 2008

Japanese Host Club and Brazilian Line Dancing

Ok, so here's the scoop: Ravioli and I are getting married. When I told my friends here in Japan after all the screaming they decided they must hold a bachelorette party for me. Stag parties (or "hen's night" as they are called in Commonwealth countries) are not a tradition in Japan, but we did one for my friend Nao-chan a few years back and she wanted to organize something "nice" for me, too. Thanks, Nao-chan!

I apologize to all the women out there who might accuse me of breaching hen-party code by revealing all, but being Japan, I don't think this particular night was normal. So to all you men out there, just so you know, your wife probably did NOT do this on her big night. She probably did something even more lucrative and scandalous. (wink!)

I was handed the crown of honor (the same one Nao-chan used on her big night) and was escorted to the first event of the evening, a Japanese "Host Club".

HostESS clubs are infamous in Japan, where men pay big money to sit at a table with beautiful women who light their cigarettes and entertain them in conversation, nothing raunchy involved. Yes, my feelings exactly: some Japanese men are so shy that they actually pay women to talk to them.

My friends found a Host Club where "cool" men in shiny suits and glittery chains with comic-book-hero hair-dos sit at your table and entertain women. Our hosts were nothing special, some were funny, some obnoxious, some with bad teeth or far-out hair, and one older guy had the perfect 1980's Jap-mullet. The conversation was nothing worth paying for (Where are you from? How do you and your friends know each other?---boring) but they posed for pictures, cheered for us when we sang karaoke, kept the all-you-can-drink drinks rolling, and we had a great time.

We had decided the next event would be somewhere danceable, and Nao-chan took us to her favorite Brazilian club. They were holding a special event with a live band, and all the Brazilians were dressed to the tee---in their cowboy hats and western boots and checkered dresses! The band was a Brazilian forro (folk kind of music) and country-western band! I remember this kind of music from my days in southern Brazil, that they loved their country music, but being in Japan it was just too weird. At first reluctantly, I learned to dance to Forro (it's actually pretty easy!) and then believe it or not joined in on some line dancing. If you ever catch me doing this again please club me with something. Or at least don't take any pictures...

Don't ever show anyone this picture, please...

Thanks to all who organized and joined me on my big hen night! I will never forget! I wonder who will be next to wear the crown of honor?


Faith said...


If you hadn't already guessed, that was me screaming!!! = ) I'm so happy for you guys and I'm so sorry I missed your bachelorette party! It looked like so much fun! Oh my goodness girl- I must talk to you for more juicy details! Can you send me your phone number so I can call you?

Can't wait to talk soon!

Lots of love!!!

Moe: said...


Not that this is too much of a surprise to's still a surprise! I personally don't think it's legal to post "Oh, and by the way I'm getting married" without providing some sort of details on how it all transpired. And if you are already having a hen party I'm assuming that the wedding date is close? See? Not enough information.

Nice dancing chica. ;-)

Anonymous said...

Ya know, I really didn't think the line dancing picture was that strange. It was more weird for me to see my sister in a skirt & heels at the bar! Wow!

Congrats again!

sister Sam

Nao-chan said...

I am so glad to hear you had fun (maybe starange fun?) night!!
And so happy to celebrate your special event!!!

Shannen said...


=Grin= Thanks! We've been talking about it for awhile actually, I just needed to get the travel bug out of my system before settling on something big. Wish you could have come to the bach party!!!!! I'll send you an e-mail soon, thanks sweetie!


Yes, you predicted it a few blog entries back, hee hee. And you were right! I don't really like surprises, don't need the on-bended-knee proposal and wanted to make sure I didn't get some surprise heart-shaped frilly schmilly ring and just came out with the discussion and we went ring shopping. Haven't decided on a ring yet, either. So how do you announce something like that? I don't want diamonds (have you seen the movie Blood Diamonds?).

Wedding party will probably be sometime next year (in Japan, feel like coming?), city office might be this summer :)

Shannen said...

*Sister Sam*

Everytime I type "Sister Sam" I get some 80's heavy metal ballad in my head...

I wear skirts and heels in bars! Just not in North Dakota, too bloody cold!


Yes, definately an unusual night, but unforgettable! Thanks to my friends, I am so lucky! Arigato- ne! Can we do it again, or does someone else need to get engaged first?

Shannen said...

*Sister Sam*

And in ND bars I would prefer a skirt impermeated with man-repellent...

Anonymous said...

Texas-face repellant?

Shannen said...


That would work!

Dee said...

yahoo, the country way of screaming. Since you had a 80's type country night. So, you slowed down enough of Ravioli to catch you... High heels, and line dancing all in one night. Stop you are scaring me!

Love and hugs, Dee

mrsceve said...

Umm, not too scandalous!
All Nao would say was, 'we had fun'... What am I supposed to think!!! Congratulations again!!

Shannen said...


Thanks for the YEE HAW! ha ha
If it helps, my ankle has been sore all week from those darn heels...


So Nao wouldn't tell you the night's activities? So you could only imagine the worst, right? Sly, hee hee hee.

Lavonne said...

Interesting to know.